Mallory and I just spent the past weekend in Herndon, VA for a leadership conference for our sorority, Phi Sigma Sigma. As newly elected officials the purpose of the conference was to teach us more about our positions and how to make a better chapter. During a presentation the speaker said that "every single one of you went to college to get a degree." Mallory was sitting next to me and proceeded to follow up on that statement with "not me. I went to find a husband." I started busting up laughing because her comment came out of nowhere. In reality I think Mallory was being pretty serious when she made this statement. How many young women that are going to college are actually going to college to get a degree and find a man? How many are going to college just to find a husband and never have to work a day in their life again? Is this really a good way to find a husband, by waisting so much money on four years of school in hopes of finding the right man. I don't mean to pick on Mallory, it is just
that you don't know everyone's stories even those who you consider a 'sister'. Even though she is joking when she made this comment, it does make you wonder how many girls think that they can rely on their looks to get whatever they want.
'Trophy wife' and 'gold digger' are common interchangeable terms
used when describing women who are only looking for a husband instead of pursuing a degree. Don't get me wrong some women would much rather stay at home taking care of the children and the household than having a real world job. The only time I think of trophy wife and gold digger is when you see rich men who tell their wife that they can go buy whatever they want. These women rely solely on their looks and flaunt them well, especially around their husband and family friends. I guess I am being really judgmental but there is no way I would want to rely on a man to provide for me. I want to get a degree and do what is best for me to be as successful as I possibly can be. I wouldn't mind if I happen to find a husband when I am at school, but there is no way I would drop everything I worked so hard for just to please my husband. Having kids and a family is important to me but I am going to school for a reason, to do what I love to do and make a career out of it. I can't help but express my opinions on this subject because my mom raised me to be independent and not to depend on others to make it in life.
I think it is funny how this statement made by the speaker at our conference changed the whole subject around completely. When the speaker said "every single one of you went to college to get a degree" she really meant that we all went to college to get a degree but grow as well. Going to college lead to me joining Phi Sigma Sigma and bettering my potential and leadership in the community and on campus. In reality I went to college but gained so much more; friendship, love, sisters, philanthropy, leadership, etc. I guess you could consider finding a husband in that mix as well if it does happen but, I don't see it as my main course of action.
Ending on a humorous note, Mallory gave me and four of our other girls a laugh. There is always a way to find humor in a serious situation. It helps to lighten the mood and boost morale, so thanks Mallory for the endless tweets and spontaneous comments.
that you don't know everyone's stories even those who you consider a 'sister'. Even though she is joking when she made this comment, it does make you wonder how many girls think that they can rely on their looks to get whatever they want.
'Trophy wife' and 'gold digger' are common interchangeable terms
used when describing women who are only looking for a husband instead of pursuing a degree. Don't get me wrong some women would much rather stay at home taking care of the children and the household than having a real world job. The only time I think of trophy wife and gold digger is when you see rich men who tell their wife that they can go buy whatever they want. These women rely solely on their looks and flaunt them well, especially around their husband and family friends. I guess I am being really judgmental but there is no way I would want to rely on a man to provide for me. I want to get a degree and do what is best for me to be as successful as I possibly can be. I wouldn't mind if I happen to find a husband when I am at school, but there is no way I would drop everything I worked so hard for just to please my husband. Having kids and a family is important to me but I am going to school for a reason, to do what I love to do and make a career out of it. I can't help but express my opinions on this subject because my mom raised me to be independent and not to depend on others to make it in life.
I think it is funny how this statement made by the speaker at our conference changed the whole subject around completely. When the speaker said "every single one of you went to college to get a degree" she really meant that we all went to college to get a degree but grow as well. Going to college lead to me joining Phi Sigma Sigma and bettering my potential and leadership in the community and on campus. In reality I went to college but gained so much more; friendship, love, sisters, philanthropy, leadership, etc. I guess you could consider finding a husband in that mix as well if it does happen but, I don't see it as my main course of action.
Ending on a humorous note, Mallory gave me and four of our other girls a laugh. There is always a way to find humor in a serious situation. It helps to lighten the mood and boost morale, so thanks Mallory for the endless tweets and spontaneous comments.
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